In this issue Marisol asks...
Dear Olga,
I know we are not supposed to date someone from the work place but I
went there and now regret it to the fullest. We dated for over
six months and I was happy and I thought he was happy. He was
kind of secretive and didn't want me to talk to any co-workers about us
dating. That part I can understand.
I am not sure when it started but he kept putting our dates on hold and
he then would say he was calling at a certain time and then the day
would be over and he would not call at all.
Then one morning I get to work and he just ignored me. I tried
talking to him at lunchtime and he simply said that he thinks we are
not going to work out. I am crushed, depressed and everyone at
work is talking about him dumping me. The 'so call friends' I had
laugh behind my back. The worse part is he is now dating another
girl at the office. He holds hands with her and they take lunch
together and for me he never did this. I still love him but want
to move on. I am not his fool. I feel like going away to another
job. Can you please tell me something that will help this feeling
of' stupidity' go away? Thanks.
Marisol in NJ
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Dear Marisol,
Wow, there is a lot going on in your life right now and not all
good! First let's start with 'your' job. This is your bread and
butter we are talking about here and with this crazy economy the last
thing you want is to leave your job. Why should you
leave? It sounds like everything was going well until 'He'
got in the picture.
This is a hard time and getting over a break-up, when you were the one
that got dumped, is the worse feeling in this universe. You might
go through some spells of self-doubt. Please do not doubt
yourself. Your Ex-sounds like the 'loving them and leave them'
type of guy. You deserve better than that.
As for having friends at work, they are your co-workers and nothing
more. There will be times when exceptions are made and you can
find a real good person and become great friends. Those girls
from the office are no better than him. You just go to work, get
your job done and get out as fast as you can.
He is parading around with the new girl; leave it alone. Focus on
yourself, and getting over him. He sounds like a very insecure
and ignorant person. Instead of feeling jealousy towards the
other girl, start feeling sorry for her because she may end up dumped
by him sometime soon.
There are so many places to meet your dream guy. Try not to mix
business with pleasure. I wish you all the best and keep me
posted.
Yours Truly,
Olga
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